Traumatic Childhood: Long-term health concerns for adulthood (emotional & physical) What can i do 2 help?!?

i have a boyfriend who is the same, he doesn't open up and bottles it open till he snaps and cries for no apprant reason. i also have alot of experience with loss which he seams to be suffering with. 4 people i was close to died within a space of 2 years, one in particular was like a father to me and i had to witness him die, as he had a heart attack when i was young and i saw it. it left me very scarred and even today i burst out crying about it randomly. grief is a strange thing but its something that has to be dealt with personally, it cannot be helped, only comforted by a loved one being there and gets better with time. it seams he has told you an awful lot about it which says a lot about your relationship to share such a troubling past. therapy can be a waste of money if the person actually doesn't want to talk, trust me, my boyfriend left after a few weeks because he couldn't do it. it is better to talk to someone like a family member, or maybe an online counselling site as thats free and anonymous and it can be easier not knowing the person as their problems won't emotionally effect them. as for you, i think you need to comfort each other, because being there to listen sometimes is enough.